Thirteen years ago Todd and I began the wild ride called marriage. It is amazing to look back at who we were then and who we are now and marvel at how God makes the two one. In a day of gender blending, confusion and role reversals, I am so thankful for a husband who looks to God’s word for his role as husband and father and who understands that our roles are different but neither less worthy or important than the other.
I started out in marriage thinking that I would do my “job” as long as he was doing his. Man, does that lead to a big mess. Since then, I’ve been so blessed to read several books that have pointed me back to the Word for how a wife and mother is to conduct herself. The life-changer is understanding that I fulfill my role regardless. When I go back to my conditional behavior (if he does x, then I’ll do y), things can get ugly quickly.
I posted on FB this morning that I’m thankful for the mystery of marriage for it truly is a mystery to me that if we follow God’s plan for surrender and death to self, that the blessings can be so utterly amazing and lead us to places that we never could have imagined.
A friend said something last summer that really resonated with me. “I want to understand God’s role for me and then quit fighting against it. I want to find contentment in it and rest there.”
